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Science Connection Member Polylogue, part 2

Contacts among members


Mode of contact: letter, phone, or e-mail
Timing of phone calls
Importance of respecting stated preferences
Substance of initial contacts
Replies vs. non-replies to contacts
Whether men like women to contact them

Synopsis of member views:
1. While some people are comfortable making and receiving phone calls as an initial contact with another member, it seems a greater number prefer initial contact by e-mail or mail.
2. There are limitations to all three modes of contact - mail, e-mail, phone, and especially the last two - as compared with meeting in person. For example, misunderstandings are more likely.
3. Phone calls should be made at a reasonable hour (e.g. perhaps 9 a.m. to 9 p.m.) in the time zone of the person receiving the call.
4. Ignore members' expressed criteria (e.g. age range preference) at your peril.
5. Most members prefer a negative reply to a contact they have made than no reply at all. A minority, however, either prefer a non-reply or take non-replies as an implied negative response and are not bothered by them.
6. All male members who voiced an opinion in response to a female member who wondered if men are receptive to being contacted by women answered an emphatic "yes!".

A sample of comments on these issues follows.
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Mode of contact: letter, phone, or e-mail - pros and cons

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Timing of phone calls
Importance of respecting stated preferences TOP
Substance of initial contacts TOP
Replies vs. non-replies to contacts TOP
Whether men like women to contact them

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